
There will always be people in life who envy you, who resent your success, who are threatened by your accomplishments, who do what they can to sabotage your efforts.
Those include people in a workplace who place politics and “optics” over productivity and innovation. Those also include naysayers who don’t dare admit the possibility of achievement because that would undermine their excuses, their failure to make a difference.
You know who your friends are when you reach a breakthrough success. Your friends are ready to celebrate with you: they share your joy. Those who cannot celebrate with you? Perhaps they’re struggling with their own demons. Perhaps they are burned out and exhausted. That doesn’t necessarily make them horrible people. They just can’t be your friends. (more…)
Anger: Anger generally comes when we do not get what we want. Choose carefully what you want and understand what you have to go through to get there.
Revenge: Trading to get even with a stock or the market is the most destructive thing that a trader can do. This usually happens in the late stages of a new trader’s destruction as they trade bigger and more obsessively because they have to get back to even and prove something to the market and themselves. It is like a surfer getting mad at the ocean for a wave, the ocean doesn’t care about the surfer or even know that they exist. It is the same thing with the market, it is neutral you create your own results.
Whether it is a child, a spouse, friend, neighbor, or an acquaintance, we have all experienced times where someone gets the best of us. No matter how hard we try to conceal character weaknesses, that other person causes us to lose patience, get angry, agitated, or frustrated. Even a loved one gets “under our skin” from time to time. Most often, we blame the other person for our irritation and we let it show, thus exposing our own irrational way of dealing with the situation. We end up being the one who looks out of control. What is really ironic though is that the one we are so upset with, you know, the one who “got under our skin” usually had no intent to evoke our irrational, immature, and out of control actions. They are usually ignorant to the cause of our irritation. When another gets under our skin it is best to look inside, not outside for the answers, knowing that it is our perception of current events that matter most. We should work on changing ourselves to better cope with others instead of trying to change others hoping they will better be able to cope with us!