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Typical Symptoms of Egotizing Trading

  
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 . Not putting in stops. The ego doesn’t want to be proven wrong. 
· Hesitating before putting on a trade. The ego wants reassurance before it begins. 
· Overtrading. The ego wants to prove itself big time. 
· Getting stuck in a trade. The ego has intertwined itself with a trade and is holding on for dear life. It cannot cut out. The ego doesn’t want to be wrong. 
· Adding to a losing trade. The ego digs its hole deeper in a massive effort to crawl out. 
· Grabbing a profit too soon. The ego wants a pat on the back.

How do we separate our ego from our trading? How do we keep from personalizing a trade? How do we avoid personalizing all of our trading?

One way to separate your ego from your trading is to build healthy boundaries between yourself and your trading. Not only do good fences make good neighbors, good boundaries make good traders. 

A boundary sets limits, makes distinctions, informs you as to what is you and what is not you, makes clear the distinction between you and others, tells you where one thing ends and another begins. It distinguishes between past, present, and future. It lets you know that another’s ideas, values, and feelings are not necessarily yours. A boundary is flexible and permeable. It lets information flow back and forth. It allows you to listen actively without having to take on someone else’s opinions and without having to force your opinions on another person. In trading it draws a distinction between yourself and your trading, between one trade and another, between one trade and all of your trading.

One trader would see the signal to take a trade and before she could put the trade on, she’d hear a voice saying, “What if I’m wrong?” Immediately she’d feel small and diminished. The next step was simply to let the trade go by as she sat there stalled by her vulnerable ego. She needed a boundary between her self-esteem and the outcome of a trade. She needed a boundary between self worth and being wrong. With such a boundary she could give herself permission to not always have to be right. (more…)

Three stages of trading objectives.

  
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To make money every trade. At first, I did not have the ability to make money every trade.  After I had the ability to make money on most trades I realized it was a horrible objective.  If you want to make money on every trade you are always waiting.  You can never take that much risk and hence the rewards are very small.  I was trading 1′s and 2′s to start, which was the right thing to do.  I would watch my mentor take every trade, no matter how dog shit it was.  As a 1 and 2 lot trader you do not have the same luxury to take dog shit trades because you can only trade one way.  Because of the flexibility he had he could do more and the truth is no matter how good or bad a trade looks we don’t know until we are in it. Getting the most out of a trade is the mark of good trader.  Risk is always related to reward.  There is very little money in making money on every trade.  This type of trading is like making 100k and keeping 80K

To make huge chunks of money.  After I realized that objective did not work for me I shifted to the extreme.  I started to swing for the fences whenever I had the ability.  It is nice when I was right but I struck out a lot too. At this point, I did not respect trading.  I did it because money made me a bad ass.  Well as you know you hard to pay your bills with bad ass.  This type of trading is like making 200k and keeping 80k.

Here are the major risks of having both of those objectives.  The first is making small amounts of money no matter the situation.  Eventually you will get in a hole because statistically you are behind.  Trading every situation the same is bad.  The second objective is trying to make huge amounts of money on every trade.  If the first trades were the best and I stopped it was great.  If the first trades were bad, I was forced to stop.  It made it hard to learn.

The Tortoise and The Hare

  
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The job of a trader is to make good risk / reward decisions over and over.

To get better and better at doing this over time. 

The cash will follow. 

If you are only about the money your longevity, in my humble opinion is limited.

One danger about only focussing on the $$ is that you push it too hard in the quest. The risk is burning out or blowing up your account.  We’ve all seen or heard of traders who break down under the pressure that they’ve put themselves under to hit their monetary target or who have swung for the fences so hard that they have destroyed their account.  Occasionally these traders fly through the finish line in magnificent style.

On the other hand:

If you love the process that you take to define the good risk / reward trades and the execution of them then you are likely to be a success. (more…)

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