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Typical Symptoms of Egotizing Trading

 . Not putting in stops. The ego doesn’t want to be proven wrong. 
· Hesitating before putting on a trade. The ego wants reassurance before it begins. 
· Overtrading. The ego wants to prove itself big time. 
· Getting stuck in a trade. The ego has intertwined itself with a trade and is holding on for dear life. It cannot cut out. The ego doesn’t want to be wrong. 
· Adding to a losing trade. The ego digs its hole deeper in a massive effort to crawl out. 
· Grabbing a profit too soon. The ego wants a pat on the back.

How do we separate our ego from our trading? How do we keep from personalizing a trade? How do we avoid personalizing all of our trading?

One way to separate your ego from your trading is to build healthy boundaries between yourself and your trading. Not only do good fences make good neighbors, good boundaries make good traders. 

A boundary sets limits, makes distinctions, informs you as to what is you and what is not you, makes clear the distinction between you and others, tells you where one thing ends and another begins. It distinguishes between past, present, and future. It lets you know that another’s ideas, values, and feelings are not necessarily yours. A boundary is flexible and permeable. It lets information flow back and forth. It allows you to listen actively without having to take on someone else’s opinions and without having to force your opinions on another person. In trading it draws a distinction between yourself and your trading, between one trade and another, between one trade and all of your trading.

One trader would see the signal to take a trade and before she could put the trade on, she’d hear a voice saying, “What if I’m wrong?” Immediately she’d feel small and diminished. The next step was simply to let the trade go by as she sat there stalled by her vulnerable ego. She needed a boundary between her self-esteem and the outcome of a trade. She needed a boundary between self worth and being wrong. With such a boundary she could give herself permission to not always have to be right. (more…)

Self-esteem and Trading Acccount

Does your self-esteem rise and fall with your account equity? If so, your probably in for some difficult times ahead with you’re trading. For some traders, a trade is more than a trade, it can represent how successful they are as a person, how much status they feel, etc.  When your self-concept is closely tied to your trading outcomes the result is a yo-yo effect in terms of your self-esteem and your internal state.  And our internal state has a lot to do with how well we trade.

Trading already involves a lot of uncertainty, and tying one’s sense of self-worth to the ups and downs of trading is unnecessarily adding emotional volatility to the picture and is usually not a good idea.

Most traders need to work on being more resilient in the face of disappointment. Trading will always involve disappointments, its part of the territory.  A delicate balance between being fully engaged in the trade with a ‘watchful curiosity’ and without being overly attached to the outcome, is how many successful traders describe their internal state.

Three Main Areas of Trading You Must Master

  1. Psychology: Trading is a miserable experience if your very self worth hangs on your every trade. You must separate your ego from your trading, you do not want wins to make you too happy or losses too make you depressed. In trading you are a business man, you are using capital to create more capital. When you lose money on a trade it has nothing to do with you if you followed your trading plan, the market was simply not conducive to a profit with your system, nothing more, it isn’t personal. Separate your ego from your trading.
  2. Risk Management: If you want to be successful in trading you have to avoid the risk of ruin. If you risk 2% of your trading capital per trade and you lose ten times in a row then you are down 20%, you need a 25% return to get back to even, you can do that. If you risk 10% of your capital per trade and lose ten times in a row you are at $0 and ruined. If you trade long enough you will have ten losses in a row, plan to stay in business after this happens. Carefully control what you lose.
  3. Method: You need to trade a method that fits your personality and is proven to win over the long term. Some people love to trade growth stocks, they need to find a method that is a proven winner and trade it. They will need to quantify what can be on their watch list, position size of each trade, and define entries and exits along with initial stop losses. Most importantly stick with the system so they will be trading it when it wins big. Each trader has to find the market they want to specialize in and become an expert. Before trading a system they need to look at the systems historical performance with some form of back testing. Find a winning method that fits your personality and trade it and it alone.

Magical thinking

Magical thinking describes subjective speculation about how markets will act. It is difficult to know for sure how significant a role intuition about the likelihood that investments will do well or poorly plays in peoples? decisions to invest. We are trying to assess innermost thoughts about money and self worth which most people feel they do not have to explain or justify to anyone. However, we can label these patterns of thought as magical thinking. Most investors have occasional feelings or intuitions that certain trading actions will bring them luck even if they know logically the actions can have no effect on their fortunes. Playing a hunch just because it feels right seldom makes traders rich. Yet proof that it’s human nature to indulge in magical thinking abounds:

  1. It has been shown that people will place larger bets on a coin that has not yet been tossed than on a coin that has already been tossed, but the outcome of the toss has yet to be revealed.
  2. If asked how much money they would demand to part with a lottery ticket they already hold, most ticket holders give a figure over four times greater than if they themselves chose the lottery number on the ticket. Apparently, at some magical level people think that they can influence a coin that has not yet been tossed and influence the likelihood of winning the lottery by choosing the number.
  3. People are capable of thinking, at least on some intuitive level, If I buy a stock, then it will go up afterwards or If I buy a stock, then others will probably want to buy the stock, too, because they are like me or I have a hot hand lately; my luck is with me. Such magical thinking is likely, in a subtle way, to contribute to the overconfidence that may help the propagation of speculative bubbles.

Confidence in Trading: The Approach

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Have you ever seen a gorgeous goddess?  A woman so magnificent you just are beeming energy inside to go talk to her?  But as you walk over you start to notice how you’re walking, what facial gestures you’re making, where your hands are, confidence fading… You’re becoming self-conscious and that wonderful feeling of excitement has now turned into fear.  Do you remember the last time you talked to a woman in this energy? In this self-conscious / fear mentality?  Didn’t go so well did it?  Why is a stock any different?

It’s all about the approach and mental confidence prior to the trade.  When you approach an event with fear that energy gets transferred into it.  I’ve talked about how The Energy of Fear is Consumption in this prior post.  So if you’re feeling nervous before a trade take note of this.  Where is this fear coming from? Is it related to money? Lack of confidence in yourself? Lack of self worth? It could be a million different things but you need to find and focus on the one that resonates with you.  I’m currently working on a meditation that will assist you through the process of finding this fear and making it your ally.

Remember the emotion will come during the “approach.” Keep track of how you feel, as this will set the course of how the rest of your interaction with the trade will go.  Keep in mind that magnificent woman: Do you approach her as nervous, not confident, and fearful of reject or strong, confident and full of love?

3 Types of Traders & 4 Questions

An egotistical trader is more likely to argue with the markets, potentially leading to huge losing days or possible account blow-outs. You don’t need to win on every trade, or even every trading day, or every trading week.

A humble trader is able to admit that his trading is creating nothing but losses that day, and stop trading until the markets are better suited to his/her style. A humble trader is less likely to double-up into excessively risky trades, in order to ‘get back even’ on the trade or on the day. A humble trader has nothing to prove, to anyone, and can freely admit mistakes to themself and others, enabling them to quickly and easily react to what the market is telling them, with little regard for it’s contradiction to what he/she may have expected only minutes earlier.

Conversely, and egotistical trader might confidently tell his friends ‘what is going to happen’ and is unwilling or unable to subsequently change his mind when the market tells him otherwise. Once he’s made a public proclamation, he can’t go back on his ‘call’ or he might appear to be wrong.

The successful trader can’t tie up their self image or self worth on a single trade, or a single trading day. Keeping your attitude humble enables you to simply treat each and every trade as individually irrelevant, and allows you to focus on doing what’s right, and not being right.”

I’ll close with the questions I ask myself about each trade at the end of the day:

1. Was it a valid setup?

2. Did I wait for confirmation of the setup and follow my rules for entry?

3. Did I implement my risk management plan?

4. Did I manage the trade according to my rules, taking profits at or beyond the initial target, never earlier unless a valid stop-and-reverse signal appeared?“A successful trader is humble, not egotistical. The trader that knows it all, will typically quickly be proven wrong by the market. The humble attitude leads a trader to be willing to admit mistakes quickly, close out losing trades, and move on without loss of confidence.

Negative Trading Behaviors

*Over Trading in Size *Jumping the Gun *Hesitating *Skipping Trades *Being in A Hurry * Trading without Proper Preparation *Getting Stuck in A Losing Trade *Whipsawing *Breaking Your Trading Rules *Shooting From the Hip * Over Interpreting *Discounting *Trading A  Scenario without Reference to Price *Trading Heedlessly *Trading Wildly *Abandoning Your Trading Plan *Not having A Trading Plan *Switching Strategies Frequently *Not having  A Proven Strategy *Not Pulling the Trigger *Not Believing the Evidence the Market Provides *Blindly Believing   A story you tell yourself *Blindly Believing A story somebody else tells you *Becoming Impulsive.*Not Verifying A System Or Method Before you trade it.*Over Researching *Using Trading as a Spectator Sport *Jumping in before you think *Trading too Big *Grabbing Profits too soon.*Getting Careless *Being too Careful *Not adding to A Winning Trade.*Trading Heavier when losing *Forcing  trades *Getting Trigger Happy *Gulping Profits too soon *Adding to A losing Trade.*Overtrading  in terms of Frequency *Sticking with A Losing system *Sticking with A Broker that gives you bad Fills.*Not Making Trading A Priority*Worrying what others will think.*Trading with borrowed Money.*Trading with Money you need to live on*Holding Unrealistic Expectations.*Engaging in Negative and Destructive Self talk*Becoming Despondent about your trading results.*Wanting certainty before you trade.*Disregarding Probabilities*Fooling Yourself about your Trading.*Not keeping Proper Records*Not Acknowledging Mistakes.*Not Learning from Mistakes.*Repeating Mistakes*Engaging in Self Pity* Blaming Others *Getting Envious of other traders *Giving Up periodically *Resisting loss* Feeling shame for loss *Lying and Covering up results *Becoming pessimistic about the future of your trading * Being Unrealistic about your present trading &Tying self worth to trading * Bragging about Trading * Being Unduly Secretive  about trading * Using  trading to inflate your ego *Letting trading interfere with A full and Balanced life *Letting life interfere with A Full  and Balanced trading *Using trading to avoid living *Doing anything Unethical regarding your trading *Doing what Doesn’t work *Not continuing to do what does work *Getting Reckless & Getting Overcautious * Letting others put your down Re your trading * Waiting to Respect yourself untill you succeed with trading*Being Unorganized in your efforts * Trading for the sake of trading *Letting Distractions take your attention away from trading * Not Specializing *Not executing with precision *Forgetting to cancel stops after a trade is off*Fighting Yourself *Fighting the Market *Fighting Your Methods *Making careless errors & Personifying the Market *Projecting your own feelings on the market.

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Go over each of the Behaviors you have checked and scale them from 1 to 10 as to severity.Let 10 represent the most harmful to your trading.

Why Do I Want To Trade?

“I Want To Find Out Who I Really Am”

When you trade your monitor will do a funny thing. It will become a mirror. A special type of mirror. A mirror that reflects your self-confidence, your self-esteem, your self-worth. The numbers and lines you see on your screen are just that, numbers and lines. Market information. At your choosing, when you decide to become part of those numbers and lines (putting on/off the trade) a sort of test begins. A test about you.

If you see the test as threatening, you will feel threatened. If you see the test as war, you will be engaging in war. If you see the test as one more failure, you will fail. If you see the test as the need to prove yourself right, you will administered the pain of being wrong. If you see the test as certainty, you will be rudely introduced to uncertainty. If you see the test as a battle of wills, you will sacrifice your soul. If you see the test as fear or loss of money, you will be giving away your scared money.

If you see and believe the test to be an exchange of information, you now become the one to confirm or deny information. If you believe the test to be one of giving up what you want in order to get it, you will get it. Get it?

There is an irony in trading of both price and time. It is exactly what you have to give of yourself in order to trade it with understanding.

P.S. There are only two types of traders, “Long Lived” and “Short Lived.” Both know the markets well. The “Longed Lived” just choose know “Themselves” better.Anyone who contemplates trading should ask themselves one simple question…..”Why Do I Want To Trade?” There are many wrong answers to this question, and only one right one…..

MindTraps-Great Book

I read a great book on trading psychology, called MindTraps by Roland Barach. MindTraps focuses on how the average person tends to think, compared to how we need to think to make money over time in the markets.

 Here’s a summary of points that can benefit you as a trader:

  1. 1.Before entering any trade, you should consider the other side of the trade and state the reasons you’d take the other side of the trade.  This helps you objectively enter a trade with a full understanding of the major risks that involved.
  2. Analyze your behavior from the beginning to the end of the trading process (from idea generation to entry and finally to exit) – what are the areas you can improve to help your trading profitability the most?
  3. Keep a trading journal of your thoughts on open positions and new ideas – writing things down helps you objectively look back and see where you went right and wrong.
  4. Fear blinds us to opportunity; greed blinds us to danger – emotions cause “perceptual distortion” where we only see the part of the picture that our beliefs allow us to see.
  5. We are likely to continue doing things for which we are rewarded -this can cause us to get too bullish after the bulk of the uptrend has occurred, or get too bearish near the lows.
  6. Fear of regret slants stock market behavior toward inaction and conventional thinking –  the person who is afraid of losing is usually defeated by the opponent who concentrates on winning (an analogy for sports fans is the Prevent defense in football – playing “not to lose” only prevents you from winning).
  7. Can’t have a personal agenda to prove your self-worth in the markets –  the focus must be on following your plan to maximize the ability to make money.
  8. Don’t get overly attached to any one view on a stock or market – don’t talk to others about open positions; it just makes it that much harder to exit when your plan says it should.
  9. Our predictions are only as good as the information available to us – objectively look at the indicators and data you use, to get the best quality of information and focus available
  10. People prefer for gains to be taken in several pieces to maximize their feeling good about their ability, while they prefer to take all their losses in one big lump to minimize the pain they feel.
  11. People prefer a sure gain compared to a high probability of a bigger gain, so they can say they made a profit; in contrast, people will speculate on a high probability of a bigger loss over a sure smaller loss, because they don’t want to feel like a loser.  In trading, we must flip around the conventional emotions to allow us to let profits run while cutting losses shorter.

Psychological problems

There are two parts to fixing any psychological problems:
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1. Recognizing that it exists
2. Accepting it so you can move on
In trading, this is where it’s so crucial to take responsibility for your own actions because it induces change and you can start making improvements. If you don’t recognize and accept a problem, then you won’t get anywhere!
What are some of these issues  ? Here are a few along with their causes and/or effects:
1. Anger over a losing trade – Traders usually feel as if they are victims of the market. This is usually because they either 1) care too much about the trade and/or 2) have unrealistic expectations. They seek approval from the markets, something the markets cannot provide.
2. Trading too much – Traders that do this have some personal need to “conquer” the market. The sole motivation here is greed and about “getting even” with the market. It is impossible to get “even” with the market.
3. Trading the wrong size – Traders ignore or don’t recognize the risk of each trade or do not understand money management. There is no personal responsibility here.
4. PMSing after the day is over – Traders are on a wild emotional roller coaster that is fueled by a plethora of emotions ranging throughout the spectrum. Focus is taken off of the process and is placed too heavily on the money. These people are very irritable akin to the symptoms of premenstrual syndrome. (more…)