1. Stop getting offended The behavior of others isn’t a reason to get upset If you let things offend you it only weakens your energy As Christopher Hitchens says, “Those who are determined to be ‘offended’ will discover a provocation somewhere.”
Your ego is working to convince you that the world should be how you want it to be; this is stupid Please stop it
2. You don’t need to win all the time Your ego loves to divide the world into winners and losers, but this is not true Because ultimately, winning is impossible all the time Someone out there right now is faster, younger, healthier, and smarter than you…
Does that make you a loser? Of course not So don’t let your ego make you feel worthless or insignificant Because you are not Let go of needing to win by not agreeing that the opposite of winning is losing That is your ego’s fear, not yours
3. You are not right all the time Your ego is the source of a lot of conflict and disagreement Because it wants you to be right, making other people wrong Letting go of your need to be right is very powerful Even letting people win, even when you know they are wrong…
Is it a big issue? Will it matter in 5 mins? No Then back down and move on If you are open to being wrong sometimes You can flex your humility and grow; your ego no longer blocks your path You save yourself so much energy and can focus on more important things
4. Don’t be superior Authentic leadership isn’t about being better than someone else It’s about being better than YOU used to be Stay focused on your growth, be humble, and help others With success, your ego will want to tell you that you are better than everyone…
While you might be more successful than others, there is no need to start acting like a dick Empathy >>>>> Ego
5. Know when to stop The ego is never satisfied No matter how much you achieve or acquire, your ego will want more You’ll find yourself in a perpetual state of striving and reaching for a new end-goal Making it so you never truly arrive at any of your goals…
The thing is, you’ve already arrived and succeeded When you detach from the need for the goal You may even find it easier to get to Also, you become more grateful because you realize how little you need to be satisfied in life
6. You are not your reputation or achievements Hear me out; it is impressive to have accomplishments and it is important But be grateful for them The less you need to take credit for your accomplishments or have people recognize them The more you are free to achieve in life..
When your ego attaches who you are to those achievements And you believe your own hype People might not want to work with you again You also start to build a bias towards your way based on past experiences Be open, be cool, be helpful
7. Let go of control The ego wants to control and micromanage everything As my good friend Epictetus tells me “There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power or our will.”
t helps if you regularly remind yourself and your ego of what is in your control and what is not It sounds simple, but it is not easy Your ego will always want to come 1st You have to control it and become its commander to succeed in life.